🤝 I chose to earn my wife’s trust..
Trust isn’t something you just hand out—it has to be earned. I’ve always told people, if someone says, “Just trust me,” that doesn’t mean you should. Real trust is built over time. It’s proven through character, consistency, and experience. But what if you are dealing with broken trust? What do you do then?
Before my wife and I got married, I had to earn her trust. See, I didn’t come from a background that made that easy. Before Christ, I was a manipulator. I had a player mindset, something that ran deep in my family for generations. It was a stronghold, a generational curse I had to break. Even after I gave my life to Jesus, I struggled to trust that I had truly changed. Has my heart really been transformed? Or was I still the same man, just wearing a new label? That fear kept me cautious, even when it came to love.
Deep down I was afraid…
For eight years, I walked alone—no dating, no sex, just me and God. When I finally met my wife, I thought I understood love, but deep down, I was afraid. Afraid I would hurt her. Afraid I was still the same broken man. My family even questioned me, asking if I truly loved her or if I was just longing for intimacy. The truth is, when a man abstains from sex, it can blur the line between love and desire. Was my love for her real, or was it my desire for intimacy? These doubts, combined with the voices around me, made me wrestle with what love really meant.
One night, I told her I loved her and I truly meant it. But as the words left my mouth, I realized they couldn’t just be words. Words are empty if not backed by action. So I told her, “You need to make me show you that.” And that’s exactly what I did. I honored her, I honored God, and for three years, we remained pure—no sex, no living together, no blurred lines. We faced ridicule from friends and family, but we stood firm. Through premarital counseling, we confronted our baggage together. I proved my love not just by saying it, but by living it—through my perseverance, my commitment, and my integrity.
Love is shown in actions…
Now, when I tell my wife, “I love you,” she believes it. Not because I demanded her trust, not just because I threw the Bible verse at her, Love “always trusts” (1 Corin. 13:7) but because my actions have shown her she can rely on me. And if I were to break that trust today, I know it wouldn’t be restored overnight. Trust takes time to build, but it can be shattered in an instant.
Are you dealing with broken trust?
Whether in marriage or friendship, trust doesn’t just happen—it has to be nurtured. If infidelity has broken the trust in your marriage, seek God’s guidance on whether He wants to restore it. True reconciliation must be Spirit-led. God loves to heal and redeem, but He also loves you too much to leave you in a relationship with someone who continually betrays you and refuses to change.
If you’re struggling with trust or facing betrayal in marriage, I encourage you to watch the full video below the reel. Let God lead you, and take heart—He will show you the right path forward.
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